Shopping as a Girl

1. Start with the Essentials: Building Your Wardrobe

Shopping for your wardrobe essentials helps you find clothes that fit beautifully and work across different occasions. Here are a few pieces to consider:

• A classic, versatile dress: The “little black dress” (LBD) is always a winner! Choose a cut that flatters your figure—A-line, wrap dresses, or fit-and-flare styles tend to be universally flattering.
• Comfortable, flattering jeans: A well-fitting pair of jeans can be your go-to for casual outings. Straight or high-waisted styles can be especially comfortable and stylish.
• Soft tops and layering pieces: Basic tops, a cozy cardigan, and a stylish blazer give you options for mixing and matching.
• Shoes that make you feel fabulous: UK shops like Clarks and Office offer stylish, comfortable heels and flats in a range of sizes.

Starting with essentials allows you to easily style yourself for everyday outings, work, or special events, while giving you a great foundation to build upon.

2. Discover Trans-Friendly Stores and Services in the UK

Many UK stores are inclusive and welcoming, with staff trained in diversity and sensitivity. Here are some shopping environments where you can feel at ease:

• Marks & Spencer: M&S has a solid range of sizes and offers fitting rooms that are generally welcoming for all gender identities.
• John Lewis: Known for its inclusivity, John Lewis offers beauty counters where you can ask for makeup tips, along with personal styling services.
• Debenhams: They’re another good choice for trying out clothing and makeup, and many stores offer great size options, too.
• ASOS, Next, and Boohoo (Online): If you prefer the privacy of online shopping, these UK-based brands have generous return policies and are known for inclusivity in sizing and representation.

For in-person shopping, consider going during off-peak hours (like weekday mornings) if you're a bit nervous. Many shops also offer personal styling services that allow you to try on clothes in a more private setting.

3. Make the Most of UK Sizing

Sizing can be a little confusing, especially since women’s sizes vary between brands. Here’s a quick guide:

• Measure your bust, waist, and hips: Sizes are generally based on these measurements, so having them handy can help you navigate any sizing chart.
• UK Women’s Shoe Sizes: These can differ from men’s sizes. Use an online converter or try on a few pairs to get a feel for your size. Many UK brands carry larger sizes or have unisex ranges.

By knowing your measurements and using size guides, you can confidently shop in person or online without as much trial and error.

4. Experimenting with Styles: Find What Makes You Shine

Fashion is all about finding what feels authentic to you, so don’t hesitate to try new styles! Here are some ideas:

• Different Silhouettes: A-line, empire waist, and fit-and-flare dresses are often flattering on many body types. If you want to highlight or downplay certain areas, experiment with different cuts.
• Patterns and Colors: If you’re used to neutrals, try a pop of color. Or, if you love prints, find ones that make you feel confident—florals, checks, and stripes are always classic.
• Accessories: A great handbag, a scarf, or some jewelry can add personality to any outfit. Accessorizing is fun and lets you express your style in smaller, bolder ways.

Trying different styles allows you to find what makes you feel radiant, and remember—it’s all about having fun and embracing what makes you feel most like yourself.

5. Embrace Makeup and Skincare as Part of Your Style

Skincare and makeup are both great tools for self-expression, and they can be helpful in building your confidence too! Here’s how to get started:

• Foundation Matching: Boots and Superdrug offer complimentary foundation matching. Ask for help to find your best shade—it’s a small but powerful way to enhance your natural beauty.
• Makeup Tutorials: YouTube and Instagram have great tutorials, often with trans women sharing their makeup journeys. Start simple: a bit of foundation, eyeliner, and lipstick can make a big difference.
• Skincare Routines: A good skincare routine helps keep your skin looking fresh and makes applying makeup easier. You can consult beauty counters or try affordable UK brands like Simple and The Ordinary for a basic routine.

Getting comfortable with makeup and skincare is empowering and can help you enhance the look you’re creating with your wardrobe.

6. Try Out Lingerie and Shapewear

Lingerie shopping might seem intimidating, but finding comfortable and affirming undergarments is a great way to boost confidence.

• Bras and Padding: Stores like M&S and John Lewis offer a wide range of bra styles and sizes. Start with a comfortable T-shirt bra, and if you’d like, explore options with a bit of padding or shaping to create the silhouette you want.
• Shapewear: For special outfits or when you want a smoother look, shapewear can be your friend. Spanx and M&S offer good options that feel comfortable and provide support.
• Quality Hosiery: Tights, stockings, or pantyhose add polish to any outfit and can boost confidence. UK stores like Pretty Polly and John Lewis have great selections.

The right undergarments help enhance your shape, create a comfortable foundation, and boost confidence in your clothes.

7. Online Shopping Tips for Privacy and Convenience

If you prefer to shop from home, the UK has excellent online retailers that deliver discreetly and have good return policies.

• Choose Stores with Generous Return Policies: ASOS, Boohoo, and Next offer easy returns. Ordering multiple sizes and styles can be a good way to find what works without any pressure.
• Read Reviews: Other shoppers often leave helpful comments about fit, quality, and sizing—use these insights to help pick items that are right for you.
• Delivery to Pick-Up Locations: Many UK retailers offer “click and collect” or deliver to secure locker locations like Amazon Lockers, so you can pick up your order at your convenience.

Final Thoughts

Shopping is a journey, just like the journey you’re on to express your true self. Be patient and compassionate with yourself as you experiment with different looks and styles. Remember, the most important part of any outfit is confidence, and the joy that comes from celebrating who you are. Enjoy every moment, and know that each outfit, accessory, and beauty ritual is one more step towards becoming the truest, happiest version of yourself.